After years away from one another, your partner is finally coming home! The excitement is overwhelming, the anticipation is excruciating! Spouses yearn for the moment their soldier returns home, putting their feet back onto American soil.

Don’t be too hard on your self if you are experiencing mixed emotions about your soldier returning, in fact it’s very common. Many military husbands and wives are overwhelmed with mixed emotions. What if their spouse has changed? What if they’ve changed themselves? How will we be able to readjust after so much time apart?

There may be many obstacles that couples will have to face once reunited. Trying to avoid any of these obstacles will only make matters worse and cause additional problems in the future. Be aware of stressors that may put additional strain on your relationship including:

• Mental strains of combat
• Adapting to alternating roles in the relationship
• Financial problems
• Poor communication

So how do we work past these issues in order to build on the relationship?

1.   Do not expect too much from your spouse. Try to simply enjoy and appreciate each others company. Remember you never know what the next day will bring so enjoy today as if it was your last day.

2.   Be open to change. Adjust to new routines. You have been apart for a while so it is to be expected that some things changed. Accept the changes. Do not expect everything to be the way it was before. Be sure that your returning soldier has a welcomed role in the day to day activities in your home.

3.   Make a conscious effort to remain positive.

4.   Remember that praise and empathy go a long way!

5.   Show your appreciation. Praise your spouse for the additional work and responsibilities your spouse has taken on while you were away. Often times many returning soldiers can feel a little hurt when they find out how well their families have managed without them. Do your best to convey how proud you are of your partner so that understand how much you still need them.

6.   Spouse: Do something special to greet your returning soldier when he or she comes home.

- Make a banner

- Cook your spouse’s favorite foods

- Have your children make a special gift.

As with any struggles a marriage or relationship will face, communication is always key. Be honest and keep an open mind. Enjoy each others company and embrace your new lives together!