Most women don’t realize that once they marry into the military, they don’t just marry that man, they marry the entire military. You realize that your lifestyle has changed drastically and you will be expected to make a new life for you and your family. Many spouses lose touch with their civilian friends because they will realize that their lifestyles are too different and the distance is too great between them. But luckily it is pretty easy to make new friends within a military community. And the best part is that they will understand what you are going through, because they are overcoming the same obstacles. This of course does not mean that you should lose touch with your old friends because they are not military, but you definitely need some friends that can relate to your situation.
If you live on base, it should not be hard to make friends. Neighbors and there will be several social groups on base that you can participate in. Many spouse host weekly events and get together in their homes, which makes it a perfect time to get to know each other on base. Many times you may feel like you need to be alone, especially if your husband is deployed. But make sure that you do not seclude yourself. Get out there and meet people. They are the ones to pull you through the hard times. If you do not live on base this will be a bigger challenge for you. But it will not be impossible. Take it from an expert who went through her first deployment living off base and ended up making tons of military friends. There were a few different ways in which I made my military friends, being off base.
I first started volunteering for local groups and bases around me. This helped me to connect with other military spouses who also did not live on base and needed the support. Some great volunteering opportunities are the ESGR, The National Military Family Association or visit Serve.gov where they have tons of volunteer positions for your area. Social networking has also been a great tool to find military spouses. Online networking sites and forums provide you with not only various information, but also tons of military spouses looking to talk and make friends. The best thing is that you can meet so many people all over the country with the touch of a button. And what is also great, is that you get to vent about anything military, and they will be willing to listen and understand. Some great networking sites are Facebook, Myspace and the forums on any military support site like, Military Spouse Magazine. Lastly, I connected with my FRG group. I contacted all the spouses of the deployed soldiers to let them know that if they ever needed anything, to please not hesitate to call. I made some great friends who at the time also needed a friend to talk to.
Our friends are what keep up grounded and with each military friend I make, I feel as if it is a long lasting flame that no matter where we are or how many miles are between us, we will all have a special bond that keeps us together.
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