Written by Angela Caban

As the holiday season approaches, we start to worry about many things. For those of us who have loved ones deployed or away, that quickly jumps to the top of the list. With that being said, it is not our only worry of the season; money, in-laws, food, all valid reasons that bring stress into our homes. This is a time in which we need support from others and learn how to strengthen ourselves emotionally, physically and mentally. I have learned a few tips for how to cope with holiday stress over the years; I guess I have the military to thank for making me stronger.

Regardless if you’re loved one is deployed, on TDY or home with you…..

Plan in advance…..

The year my husband deployed, we knew he would be allowed to come home during Christmas, but he would not be home during the time I needed him the most – planning time. So we sat down and planned out our holiday festivities in June. It may sound early, but by taking the opportunity that we had, I was able to spare myself some stress around that time. If you have this same opportunity that I had, then take it. We wrote out our Christmas cards, planned our Christmas menu, purchased Christmas gifts and had them wrapped. Even if your service member will not be with you for the holidays, take the time to celebrate with them early, or have them help you with the preparations.

Once my husband returned home for R&R, we could focus on more important things, like spending time together that was needed.

Ask for help, and surround yourself with loved ones…..

The one thing I was always grateful for was my family. If I did not have them around, the holiday season would have probably been harder on me and my son. I know many don’t have their families nearby, but this is the perfect time to be surrounded by friends. Whether your service member is with you or not, studies have shown that people that surround themselves with friends and family around the holidays tend to have less stress and a decrease in depression.

Don’t overdo it…..

Why stress yourself with overspending? We may not be able to control many things over the holidays, but spending you can. I have always been a big spender to others around this time of year, but I also have made sure that it was because I had the cash. Don’t give yourself the option to overspend on your credit cards – think of the future headaches you will be giving yourself after the New Year. The holiday season doesn’t mean we have to go broke, because my family is rather large each year we do a holiday grab bag. This will remove the pressure of having the need to buy for each individual person.

Remember the holiday season is a time to give thanks for all your blessings and to spend with the ones you love, if at any time you feel that the stress has reached its peak, seek professional help. It can be hard for some to cope and you should talk to your doctor immediately, if you feel you severe anxiety or depression. Happy Holiday’s!

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